Assertiveness is having the right to say what we think and how we feel in a way that asserts one's rights and also makes us more comfortable with ourselves in how we communicate. You mentioned your regret and that is the mark of a conscientious person in my book.

I learned assertiveness some years ago from a counselor. I told her I wanted to express myself better to others because I was very frustrated with relationships and ended up in arguments, too. I have said much I regretted, too.

I did not get the impression that you were angry all the time or even a lot. I just had the ideas on how you could improve your relationships so that you will not be unhappy. Assertiveness learning is simple and just takes practice like any new skill. Best wishes.

<font color=purple>"If you free what is inside you,
it will make you free;
if you hold onto what is inside you
it will destroy you."

Zen Proverb
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