in 2 weeks my paranoid schizophrenic ex-husband will come live with me. i am undertaking this because of several factors. one, assisted living facilities for the mentally ill are either substandard or so costly. second, my ex-husband''s trust fund has been hit hard by the stock market/economy slump. up to now we have included him in our lives but he has not lived with us since his illness. for now that is not the problem...
the problem is my son who asked me to caretake his father in my home. i have suggested we install an adt sysytem to alert me when david wanders out, particularly at night.(he is a wanderer-biggest non-compliance.) second, i've asked for a medicalert bracelet that will "tell" the police david's dx and to call their number, then the medicalert people will call me so i can pick him up. he was recently arrested(loitering), charges were dropped ,but the judge said the state will intervene if he gets stopped again.
my son has not offered to compensate me. he has offered 1300/mo to care for dave...meaning room and board, etc. ..anything that david might need. most of the 1300 will be eaten up by his expenses. that's all fine and good. today i emailed my son about adt and medicalert. he asked me if that was being included in the $1300/mo and if not, what was my plan!!!
need i say more!!!
i emailed him back and tried to use all the healthy therapy i've received. i feel like i'm being dumped on and david isn't even with me yet. i am moving to a bigger house to have him live with me, so i can't back out of the deal or i would. movers are coming and i'm on my way.
so how would any of you handle, not david, but my SON? i'm mad but i'm also very anxious cause this is a very concerning beginning. i have already had my exit vist with my T and pdoc so i really need some good suggestions of how to handle this situation with my son.
sorry for the long post. any help is most appreciated. i'm really upset! ..and mad!