many thanks for your reply.my son is 38.
as for the costs of living we -dave and i -would be splitting the lving costs for the most part . i am disabled and have a limited fixed income. the rest of his personal expenses have to come out of the 1300. too many to mention, but largely medical, etc. at the present i have done a tentative budget that makes it seem like the adt and medicalert bracelet monthly costs can be used within that 1300. these are expenses i would not need for myself. they are services to protect david from wandering so i can effectively care for him. therefore he would need to absorb the costs. that wasn't my concern, i was just surprised when my son responded in an email, "what was MY plan?" to pay for these costs if it took us over david's 1300/mo. i didn't feel it was my expense to cover so was baffled by my son't response. he handles the trust and that's what it is for. to cover costs for davids' expenses and care. if for any reason more money is needed that's what the trust is for.
I hope this helps explain better.
as for what it costs to care for a disabled mentally ill patient. any facility for this type of treatment is over $3500/mo. so i'm trying to do a lot for 1300/mo.
thank you again for replying.