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Originally Posted by used-up579
I told her she didn't make a wise decision because she hasn't followed through on things in the past and she doesn't pay her bills. She took it personally and started crying.
I know in actuality she is the one that has made her own bed and I was simply trying to point out the obvious.
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Originally Posted by used-up579
She thinks she is all grown up and knows what to do but she is failing at it and won't admit it.
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Hi, telling her right away that she made a mistake is guaranteed to get a defensive response. Can you help her think it through instead? As a parent I have always thought it was better to talk them through the decision making process so that they will learn how to think things through. I am not so tied to the outcome that they reach but that they looked at the problem objectively and saw all the possibilities. You have to be patient at first but they will learn eventually HOW to make good decisions. If you coddled her maybe she never learned how to make decisions?
Did she make her own bed all by herself?