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Originally Posted by Pexeva13
Hi everyone
I've been without a job since June6 08 when I clocked out for lunch and never returned. My hi anxiety and relapse into depression got me. Now with the ecom. so bad, there isn't a lot out there to apply to. 
I've always worked. now I am beginning to think I won't find work. I'm taking responsibility for my own actions/behaviors, but dang it, I can't take it back now. I don't know it my former employer is giving me a bad reference or not. I know for a fact that they are saying I didn't ask for help and (therefore denying that my problem was depression/anxiety) and that I can't collect unemployment. Long story, but how much do you tell someone at a job interview about why you left your last position? I'ved read many job seeking sites that you never say because of medical reasons. I'm 61 so I know ge is also an issue finding work. I need an income. The bills are getting behind. I've had only one interview in 6 months.
I'm not sure how to take responsibility for my behavior/due to the depression/ or is that thinking an excuse? Any one please comment. Be real, I am a realist in most areas of my life. |
Hi! First, I am so sorry that you are struggling with anxiety and depression right now. Anxiety is a BLEEP! and Depression doesn't help the cause either.I actually lost my job because of it, but they fired me, which allowed me to collect unemployment.
I lost my job in February of 07 and didnt get a new one until Feb 08...yes it took me a year. I am going to tell you this: in case you don't know it, it takes a good 9 months to a year to find a job. This is based on my experience and the advice of my T, who is urging me to start looking for a new gig now before I relocate to another state in about 10 months.
I would advise that you apply to anything and everything. I am not sure what your background is in, but there are places that hire customer service reps to work from home (i have to find the site and i will get back to you). Make looking for a new job your JOB...meaning make it a 9 to 5 thing you do during the week. Look in newspapers, go to the job search site...etc....it's going to be tough. Interviews were far and few for me as well, but I kept at it and trust me the depression and social anxiety was kicking my *** i was suicidal for almost a year. But I wouldnt let it get the better of me. Don't let it get the better of you either!
As far as what to tell the interviewer...thats a tough one. I told all of my interviewers that i was let go due to medical reasons, which was true...i was in the hospital quite frequently--weird infections with unknown causes and to this day i have not a clue what it was but i am grateful they never came back. I told them I was unable to keep up with my responsibilities at the time and they had to let me go. But i made it clear that i was 100% better...even if it was a partial fib. I needed a job ASAP.
I am going to be real with you. It's a tough tough road, no lie and with the economy the way it is now, it's even harder. Are you seeing a therapist? A T might be able to help you work through some of your issues.
Have you tried temp/employment agencies??
Also to cut down your your bills, I would advise you to close anything that you dont need (cable, netflix etc).
I wish you luck. Feel free to PM anytime if you need help with your job hunt or if you have any questions or need advice etc. I have been thru it I know!
