sabby, good questions and thank you for your reply and concern.
if dave goes off his meds/which i will be administering, i will take him to the VA for assistance. i intentionally got a home that is nearby to the facility. his pdoc will be there too. my son will be nearby-30 minutes-and yes, he'd address this with his father too. my son has durable power of attorney and we are getting the same for me. i am also going to the SSA to put myself in their files re david. the adt is going to be put in and the medicalert bracelet will be set up, too. good conversation with my son via phone. maybe we're both a little stressed!
david is quite delusional, hears voices, wanders,etc. however he has never been violent. yes, his illness is quite severe. but he has a gentle spirit that he has had all his life. he's still in "there" but the schz. interferes with his interactions with others. i have remained in his life since his illness at age 25, he is now 61. we are the best of friends tho sometimes he gets things confused. i oten say he has a "beautiful mind" but the schz. interferes. he had obtained a phd in psychology before geting ill and is quite brilliant. i still love him just not in the marriage kind of way. he was my best friend. i was devasted when he became so ill but had to "drive on" cause i had a 3 year old to raise on my own..i look back and really don't how i survived this life event.
i am hoping to get him more quality care/pdoc to see if some new meds may stop some of the delusions and voices. he has been better in the past...about 10 years ago. when he first got ill, it was 25 years later until he was able to really have a conversation with us of any normalcy. his present care has been substandard. that is one of the reasons we are taking this drastic measure in hopes we can be hands on with his medical care and quality of life.
sorry for the long post. i anticipate i will be using pc for support after he moves in as i'm realistic that there will be challenges for me. i'm bp among other dx's and stress tends to upset the apple cart tho i have been stable for some time. i have a pdoc and will continue my therapy when i move.
thank you (((sabby))) for showing an interest. i really appreciate your asking those important questions, too. we keep trying to be proactive before he moves in, in hopes that we are doing everything we can to avoid as many pitfalls as necessary. if you have any other suggestions please let me know.