I agree with Madisgram-you have every right to feel sensitive in light of your 2 examples. I'd definitely go to HR about your boss-no one deserves to be talked to that way for any reason at work. Be glad you didn't start a verbal pissing contest with your boss-I've made that mistake&was eventually aplogized to, but I never trusted that person ever again. Your friend was VERY insensitive-shame on them for being so cold during a time of high stress. All I can offer is hugs&that I've been there as far as the work situation goes.