Oh, one more thing Capp, when i mentioned the "final straw" and such, you said something about made her angry and there were problems before that. There were, I tried to address them. Her issue with me was that we were no longer intimate (not just sex, but no more cuddle, when we watched tv i was sitting on the couch, she was on the loveseat and such). I told her that my "drive" was down maybe due to the fact that she wasn't being a good housewife (I didnt know and mentioned it bc i knew at the time i was avoiding to come home bc of that....i was coming home late from work....drinking a beer or two after work talking with the guys). I told her to try to tighten up on that, and see what happens. She told me to initiate sex more and maybe that would motivate her to do more housework. After weeks of her and i repeating those statements to each other, for about two weeks straight i came home immediately from work and initiated sex with her. She made no changes in her housewife activities. It was around that time that I discovered her 2nd life in our hometown. She also stopped complaining/asking what was wrong with our marriage, ect. I then knew that she was getting attention somewhere else.