WOW...what great sharing, advice, understanding. I have felt incredibly better since I posted here. First, because I feel guilty with how I have been acting and and it was good to get it off my chest. But way more than that, to have such accepting/helpful answers from you all has been very, very uplifting to me. I keep going back and reading and re-reading the posts.
It is funny in a paradoxical way, but by posting my plight, which is somewhat of a selfish act, I have much more energy to see what I need to do for her in an unselfish way. All I can say is thanks, thanks, thanks to you for reading my story and taking the time to give such thoughtful, sharing responses.
I am energized and feel hopeful...I am synthesizing my "action plan" and will share it with once I have made some progress.
Bless you all...