I have a lot of marriage AND dating after divorce experience under my belt, but for the past 4 years, since joining PC, I've abstained from dating or trying to meet men in any circumstance. My experiences were SO bad, taking inordinately long times from which to recover. The past 4 years have been peaceful for me, and during that time I worked on and completed my M.A. in Art at a local university...something I had foregone in order to find "Mr. Right." LOL. When I was in "dating mode," I approached each relationship with optimism, and if it seemed to blossom romantically, I put it at the forefront of priorities. Sadly, the significant other did not! I'm not talking minor glitches here, but stalkers, con artists, and perverts who eventually revealed their true colors. This has left me feeling I have a very bad judgment of character, and best to leave the dating to others.
I found a great deal of satisfaction and self-esteem in improving myself thru education. During this time, also, I learned, for the first time to be content alone. I still like men, but no longer think of the possibilities out there.
Sorry if I sound cynical. I'm not really. It's all a process of growth for me.
Love
Patty