and Lenny....

For me,,among many other deeply personal acts of providence, forgiveness is the "act' of letting go of the need to punish... Who said I was punishing her? How am I punishing her?

Understanding begins with the self and moves outward...I am learning about myself more.

IMHO.

Lenny

I am getting very tired of repeating myself. I am NOT punishing her. I refuse to support the lifestyle that brought the marriage to an end. I was used before when she had the affairs, and she used me again when she went out with her neighbor. I would rather die over here in Iraq, have a bomb blow up in my face and burn in hell than to support that habit/lifestyle.