I did not say you were punishing her...Forgiveness is not a one way street,,more often than not it generally begins with ourselves and the penence served for real or imagined sins is a common reason to allow contracts of various types to continue long after their lives are over.

I'm sorry ncguynva for your pain. It is unjust from your description. But we are only offering our perspectives with what little we have about your circumstances to understand. I admit my personal failing there. I do not think you failed, more as a misinterpitation of words.

But our motives are to support you...not defile you.

With Care,

Lenny