Having worked in this field, I'm with sabby, I cannot think of any reason your girlfriend would give out her personal numbers to any clients. When my kids were small, I did bring them in from time to time on days off to visit those people that never had guests.

I would bet money the reason she doesn't want to inform management about this issue is because I can't imagine any reputable place approving of her behavior (ie giving out home number.) In my opinion she has stepped over the line. In fact, I am sure that this would be a termination offense in the places that I've worked. I am sure that she is well aware of the boundaries. If I were her, to cover her own butt, I'd change my number and tell him that I no longer have a personal cell.

As for the gifts, that is a total no-no! You couldn't even take a stick of gum or a piece of candy! These people are disabled, many would give you anything and everything they have. There is no wiggle room here to prevent someone from taking advantage of them. The only allowance that the company I worked for made was at Christmas time, they would look the other way when family members gave us cookies or candy. FAMILY members, not the clients themselves.

I would be very uncomfortable if my husband had visited my at work with the exception of lunch time. I'm an adult, this is my job, none of your concern. My husband and I have worked at the same place before, and he was never in my work area unless he was supposed to be there. He would bring me a soda from time to time or stop by and ask what time I was taking my break, but never did he hang around to chat. Nor did I enter his work area unless I had a reason to be there.

I also have to add that I have NEVER asked my husband for permission to do anything. Things like major purchases we discuss of course, but I've never ever asked him if I could do something or go somewhere. Nor has he ever asked. Out of courtesy well will say "hey, do you have anything planned... I want to go..."

It set my teeth on edge when she asked your permission, I was very pleased to read that you felt it was her decision. I wish you would have held to that.

Trust is a very important issue, if you do not trust her now, it is very likely that you never will. I have had male friends that I've gone to lunch with (usually breakfast because we worked night shift) without my husband and he has had female friends that he's had lunch with without me.