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Originally Posted by Gleak
I see what you're saying. She's found many new friends through work and otherwise and they are good people. I have no issues with her finding and making new friends.
The issue I have on this matter is going on a "date" with someone when you're already in a committed relationship.
My fiancee would be very upset if I were to take some girl out to lunch without inviting her, regardless of why I took her out. That's just not something that a person does.
I even spoke with my older sister regarding this matter. She's been married for years and explained to me that if her husband took some other girl out to lunch that he met somewhere, and she only heard about it after the fact, they would have problems. I'm not the only one with this type of thinking.
If she met a man at the mall or wal-mart and thought they were cool, why wouldn't she invite me out along if they had suddenly arranged a lunch date? After all, I am the man she says she wants to spend the rest of her life with.
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hi gleak. it sounds like to me after reading all your posts that you both have some major issues to see if this is going to work. i see red flags on both y'alls part that make me feel that there's a lot of controversy between you two. maybe some couple counseling would help you all work out these issues.
i still feel that her actions with clients is questionable re professional ethics but i see some stuff going on with you too re your relationship "rules' and boundaries/control. would she agree to couple's counseling? would you?
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