Just to set the record straight, she doesn't have to ask my permission for anything. She only asked about that shift as she knew this guy would be trouble, in which case I believe she should have just declined.

I would be open to couples counseling, though I can't speak for her.

Again, to set the record straight - we've had our disagreements and arguments, our ups and downs. We talk silly to each other and enjoy each others company.

We still go out on dates - to movies, dinner, ice cream - we make each other laugh and feel good about each other. We still go on vacation once a year together and have a great time.

Our relationship has been quite strong, with very few bumps in the road up until just a few months ago. That's not bad for a 3.5 year long relationship.

When she invited me over to her place of work to finally meet the guy that's been calling her late nights and giving her gifts that she's accepted - etc, I was kind of shocked when I shook his hand.

You see, my fiancee is 24, so is this guy. He was wearing headphones that were blaring music, had on very colorful clothing and had a bright red mohawk. The first thing he did was look at me like I was a joke.

The little bit of conversation we had struck up was about her and he complimented her on her taste of clothing on down to her looks.

Not long after this - her company threw a company hallloween party. That night, I went dressed a mechanic lol. My finacee wore a clown wig. I tried all evening to get a photo of her WITHOUT HIM in the picture, but I couldn't. When we decided to leave... HE leaned in to her and whispered something into her ear.

I had asked her what he whispered - she said he asked if everything was alright.

Is that really his business? Should he be close enough to her to really and truly care about her relationship status with me?

Yes, I would be totally for relationship counseling - and if that is what it takes, i'll ask her if she's willing to do the same.

I do love her with all of my heart and for all that i'm worth. I've done nothing but give her all that I have and worked hard and she's done the same. I am willing to do anything to make things right. I need her in my life.