***When I am overwhelmed and drowning in frustration, it gives me comfort if I have even a tiny thing that is in my control. Not controlling another person, but controlling something/anything that eased my feelings of hopelessness.

Cap, a lightbulb just came on when I read that the second time over....when she got overhwelmed, frustrated, depressed....basically feeling bad....she would want to go out and have a good time to forget her problems. I guess that is a coping mechanism.