honestly if it was me i'd be running screaming for the hills...but hey my issues have issues!

seriously it would kind of freak me out. i too had problems with my first t crossing some ethical boundaries and being inapporpritate so i am super sensitive to how and what they say. like you i guess i would let the first one slide but if it kept getting addressed then i would put my guard up. to me if it feels wrong to you then it is wrong..hell it;s your therapy...not his.

my t now is a great woman..we were talking one day and she told me she wants to be my friend and i totally lost it (inside..outside i was as calm as a totally disassociated person could be)...now she is nice, never done anything inappropriate or harmful (don't expect her too) but that just scared the bejeebers out of me...i was able to tell her about it the next session and she explained what she meant and i was okay (altho regretfully i did have to return the international coffees i bought and the fancy glade candles since it seemed she wasn't coming over for quality time like people do on tv...damn!)