Hi LMo

It’s tough being in the middle isn’t it? It’s usually a no-win situation. Your stepmom is going to move past this in her own time, when and if she gets ready. And I really don’t believe anything you can say is going to make a difference right now. You know that you weren’t “choosing sides”, but realistically, nothing short of you saying that you think that your sis-in-law should burn in hell would have satisfied her. Maybe some overkill there, but you get the point. As a parent, most parents will defend their children, whether they be right, wrong, or indifferent. My daughter is having some serious marital problems right now, and has been telling me that divorce is looking like a possibility. I know that she is as much to blame for those problems, if not more so. But if it happens, and I hope it doesn’t, I will stand by her 100%. She’s my baby, my first born, and I will be there for her.

You’ve extended an apology, explained how you feel, and very graciously offered your help in a very tense and trying time. You’re an extremely giving person, and I think that speaks volumes about you. IMHO, I think the best thing for you to do is to sit back now and let the stepmom and the others let you know if they need anything from you. I think you’ve done what you can.

I hope everything works out in the best possible way for all concerned.

bp

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