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Originally Posted by deliquesce
gleak - you can't control your fiance's behaviour, and you can't control her client's behaviour. i think you need to start trusting that she will make the right decisions. this whole thread to me reads like one big trust issue that needs to be addressed.
i do not work as a carer, and i do not know the professional code of conduct. what everyone else has said here seems sound, though.
but i dont think that your issue is limited to this one client. it sounds like you would be upset with *any* male that your fiance might have a friendly relationship with. i am 24, and i have a lot of male friends who txt me late at night, who i go out to lunch with, who would "lean in close" and ask me if everything is ok. if i had a fiance who had a problem with that, then i would have a problem with him, because it would speak of him thinking that *i* was not being appropriate, that i somehow don't know how to regulate my own behaviour.
if your fiance says there is nothing wrong with her relationship to her client, then i think you need to trust her on that. if there truly is something wrong, then that would be up for management to take action on.
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Wow, I had a huge, long post made up and when I went to submit it, poof.. It was gone after I had to re-log in!
Anyway, the point is - you're pretty much right. I did have trust issues. They stemmed from way back when.
However, this client is in a state run facility for a mental disorder, pretty much this makes him an at risk adult.
He absolutely does need help. Though, he doesn't need an attractive caregiver asking him about her physical appearance or accepting his gifts and what not. (The photo's he gave her are still in my house, they're in the other room on the shelf...)
My main problem that brought on the trust issues were the fact that she had only known him for a month, and already was text messaging her personal cell phone, calling her personal cell phone as well as her house phone at work and coming over very often just to hang out.
I only learned about all of this a month after she met him at work.
Anyway, I do appreciate all of the replies and comments. They've been a huge help!