Hi Lbien,

I think your gut instinct is that you really can't trust this T, and I feel you have good reason not to trust him or at least be very leary.

Your story sounds like the beginning of my therapy, my T used to say and do those things too. Then things progressed to more, and the longer it went on the harder it was to leave.
Almost 2 years later since I fired him, after becoming severely depressed due me leaving him, it took forever to get past the worst of it. If you can find another T, it will save you a lot of potential heartbreak. I am seeing a women T who has very strong boundaries and it is the best thing I have ever done. My T and I are looking into bringing charges against him to the APA.
I was so hurt and damaged by what my T did to me, and it sounds like your T could have the potential to do the same thing. Please be careful, please find another T. After just 4 months, it will be easier to leave him now than later...