((((((((((((mandy)))))))))) (if ok) -

I really don't believe you have a cold heart. That's from what I'v seen from you in posts and in chat. Also, I believe that if you truly *did* have a cold heart, you would never even wonder if you had a cold heart. And besides, the fact that you have two sons you obviously care for is further proof that you don't have a cold heart.

some people i think, do find it possible to forgive their abusers. others do not. i think ozzie has a good suggestion about creating an emotional distance. that way you can still have contact with her and look after her if you wish, but you won't be so easily hurt.