Wow! Welcome to pc. This should be a great place for you! In addition to the relationship forum, we have a "normal" PTSD forum and a combat-related PTSD forum where you may find a lot of help. I am bowing out of offering any advice to, but I will offer you support! I'm so sorry you have your hands so full! You sound so well informed and ready to battle what you have to battle to keep you marriage and that's great!!