Hi, I am new here but your situation reminds me somewhat of mine and a few things I have been through. I have two suggestions from my own experience may be these can help you just a bit.

My husband lies and denies alot "unless" it is in black and white. It might be easier to set up on your computer a Parental Blokc, that way there is no chance of either him or anyone else in your family accessing inappropriate material. It is one thing for a person to have pornagraphy in the home "locked up" but if there is even a slight chance of a child getting into it at the age of 8, that crap would be gone!

Your daughter does not need to be exposed or have a risk of being exposed to crap like that at her age. If she came home from spending a night at her friends and got into the same thing would you continue to allow her to go to that home? Probably not I bet.

So why wait for "him to get rid of crap? On a day he is not home, just dig through the house, black bag it up and toss it in a dumpster or burn it! I did that and I told my husband if you want to view it you can...just NOT in OUR home and on OUR PC...I told him if his boss lets him read, watch and view porn at work then take it there...needless to say that will never happen.

My PC has a Parental Gurad on it not only because of my husband but teenage boys..I do not want a virus which many of these website have and so I passowrd protect it..monitor the sites and have it blocked so no one can acess porn. This has helped "me" and I could care less if it bothers anyone else. It is my home too! It is a boundary I will not allow anyone to cross in my home.

Just my own personal thoughts addiction or not....showing him in a thoughtful manner and in black and white how many wasted hours he has spent on porn might be a wake up call.

Money for us now has to be budgeted and ALL is accounted for even a candy bar purchase. This keeps everyone honest! In this day with the ecomony budgeting is very important and not to many people can just blow a 1,000 dollars...at least we could not.

Sounds like your hubby maybe bored as well...staying at home all day leaves "too much time" or idol time on a person's hands ...I am a stay at home mom and know this can happen. Planning something fun to break things up might be good for you both...an afternoon lunch? Evening picnic? dancing, dinner? Just a few ideas, hope they help a little.