You do not need a magic eight ball for the answers, the more I read your post, _you know deep down you _can get past all this trauma, and the two of you can and will head for a brighter future...yes the steps you take are strong and healthy ones! That is all you can do right now, take steps, small ones, towards getting back what you once had. The fact that he admitted to a problem after not being capable of that- wow! I, too, have a traumatic past and am taking steps (small ones too..) to create a brighter, more balanced future.

Here's to you and I, taking steps toward our futures, like this.....