(((tinyflyer)))

Sex for women is an emotional connection, whereas for men it is more of a physical connection. So, you not wanting to have sex does not mean he is unattractive...but maybe you are having a hard time trusting or opening yourself up more?

Him pressuring you or saying it is your problem, does nothing to help you feel more trusting or safe or emotionally connected in the relationship. He may just be inexperienced and not understand this.

You mentioned in your first post that your parents went through a bad divorce, and that your father was emotionally abusive to your mother. Our parents do influence us -- and I'm guessing that experiencing all that stress from growing up/the divorce is impacting you now. This *does not* mean there is anything wrong with you, but it does mean you may be carrying around some of your parent's burdens.

My parents went through a nasty divorce, and I'm so sorry you had to experience this. Many years later I ended up seeing a therapist, and it has been very helpful. Talking with a professional helped me find perspective and understand how my parents' problems impacted my own life.

Whatever you do, please honor yourself and your feelings. There is nothing 'wrong' with you, if anything you've been through a difficult experience and you are still healing.

HTH