oh! sorry, i was not clear. I actually meant that if B needed to talk about a critical, personal problem with someone, the T would be a good choice; but very often, family members are not always a good choice, for many reasons.

I really try to be open with T about the things we discuss, but there are tons of things that never come up in one short hour. I have one close friend (what Bradshaw would call "a non shaming friend") to whom I know I could tell anything, and could rely on her help, and vice versa. I tink we'd go to da wall for eachodder. then again, many non-T-related things I share with my DH. oh ... and then there are you patient folks, whom I talk to death...