Here is a situation I am facing:

In my marriage this privacy issue has created a lot of problems between my spouse and I. I have repeated told him that I prefer to keep my issues/our issues between us. Yet he continually discloses information. It is to the point that I have instructed my medical practitioners NOT to disclose any information about me to my H. I know this sounds like I am being a real jerk but...I want privacy and for whatever reason he has repeatedly violates that request.

He talks to his brother and friends, and even my friends about everything: His back pain, his GI problems, our finances, family member's bowel conditions, problems with our children..etc Most recently I heard him on the phone with one of his buddies, talking about how his brother was crying and carrying on about some issue he is facing. As he was talking to his friend he made a joke about it saying..."that boy has problems, he needs professional help, I KNOW, he can see (my therapists name)! She will fix him!" Since in the joke he used my therapist's name, and his friend laughed, it was VERY clear that my husband shares MY PERSONAL information with his friends also---and likely not in a very compassionate way. This infuriates me!

How do you handle someone like this? If you tell them...hey, I really would appreciate it if you leave me out of your locker room conversations...he does it anyway. If you tell him...My health/mental health issues are personal, PLEASE do not discuss them with others... He still does. Why do people do this? If you simply exclude him from knowing...he becomes not much of a partner. They are not doing it to help someone, to better support someone... it just... to talk/make fun/have nothing else interesting to talk about/just like to make some else look bad. Is it some type of addictive behavior? I don't get it, what do they get out of it????

Sorry...for ranting...guess I have some resentment about being on the other side of this issue :-)

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