welcome to pc !! i'm glad you found us. whew, you and your H have gone through a lot together. with proper therapy, meds, and adherance to his taking his meds, he can get better. one of the things that baffles me the most is how did he get sent to iraq with a medical record of attempted suicide and some personality disorder?
my son is career military officer and my ex hus./vet it schizophrenic. so i am aware of things you all can do, i hope, to to help you.
first you didn't mention if your h is working. if he isn't, one thing you can do is apply for SSI or for ssd through the social security admins. this will provide some money/mo. but also give you another avenue for treatment for him through the state or medicare. his medical records certainly should make him eligible. he can also go out in the community to find a therapist and pdoc.
you might consider going the military route to find him totally disabled due to combat. one thing my son has told me is that the VA system doesn't want these snafus taking place, so i encourage you to go up the ladder of protocol to be heard. (your H owns some of this cause it doesn't sound like he was compliant with some of his treatment/meds but then again this is a sick man trying to get well.)
rather than going "up the wrong tree" can you tell me if your H has been in the military for a while...meaning before he went to iraq? then i feel i can better suggest things. while writing i found i was sort of steering you blindly and that won't help you.
can you give me more specifics on the military thing? can you give me his other diagnosis?
did want to share my personal story about combat ptsd. all three times my son went to iraq and returned home he had ptsd. i can truly relate to the upheaval this condition causes in the person and those that love him/her. there are avenues for you to help your H get the help he needs. i just want to reassure you.
and you need some therapy support to heal also. will be more specific if you want the info.
you can private message me, click on my name, or leave a reply here if you decide to. will be praying for all your family and especially at this time, your hubby.
hang in there. this is a wonderful, caring community of people. we're glad we can help.