Ashes, you already got some good replies. Going along with what others have said already, if you think something, it can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. Try changing your thoughts about it or at least challenging your thoughts on it? I can enter a room thinking that people won't like me so then I can act guarded and unfriendly, people will respond inkind and then I can pick up on everything that confirms my beliefs. I can also go into a room and think that people will like me, I will act friendly then and people will respond to me inkind and I will pick up on things that confirm my beliefs.