I'm wondering how the holding would help put words to feelings. It takes time to learn how to find the words and in the meantime, it's okay to talk even though you don't (yet) have words for your feelings. Learning about feelings and learning the words for them can be learned now and in time you will be able to apply them to your experiences right in the moment as well as backwards to experiences you've already had. That said, I wish my T would hold me.

If this is the kind of therapy you want, and your T is offering that to you, I'm wondering too why you would be looking for it someplace else--or do you mean that you're curious about T's orientation and her type of therapy? Could you talk to T more about this by reminder her what she said about allowing her to hold you and that you've thought more about it and have some questions...