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Old Jan 18, 2009, 03:52 AM
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Originally Posted by deliquesce View Post
anyway, i was hoping some people wouldn't mind sharing their stories about when they told about the abuse. what your worries were, if they were met, what responses you got and if you liked them or not. my pdoc is a safe person, and he always surprises me with how kind he is about it. i've heard from another friend, however, who told about some stuff that happened to her, to a few of her friends, that they all thought she "asked" for it, or somehow encouraged it. so she tells me not to tell people, especially guys.

what are your thoughts?
hi deliquesce,
I am lucky to have such a great t. She is incredibly patient, even when she has probably wanted to shake me and tell me to just look at the evidence in front of me and stop denying it all! I was already seeing her about other stuff when some repressed memories started coming up. These memories were vivid, but had a blank in the middle so because I couldn't remember what happened in that 'crucial' time-period i have always denied that anything DID happen, despite all the evidence to the contrary and flashbacks which I put down to my vivid imagination! We have spent a lot of time working on different aspects of my recollections and flashbacks, and there have been long periods where we have steered clear of the topic altogether. It is only in the past month really that I have finally accepted that it DID happen, but she has been away for Christmas break, and I am not ready to bring it all back up again anyway. I have never told any of my friends; my p-nurse knows, my GP is aware that there are issues of some kind but not what exactly, and when I was first trying to make sense of my recollections I broached the subject with my mother (over the phone, 1000km away ) but because of her last response- "if I can't remember it then it probably didn't happen"- I have never spoken with her about it again. I am a very closed and private person at the best of times, so being able to come to PC and thrash this all out in this forum has been wonderful for me, esp as i was a member well before anything came up...
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