4everonmeds,

I say you've got to get help. It sounds like the depression is getting to a place now that is not allowing you to function even minimally. Like nightbird said, there is confidentiality in the mental health field and if anybody did give that information up to your ex you could sue. Not that that is the scenario you want to envision, just know that help is there for you in confidence. You don't need to tell anybody what is going on, just your doctors. I hope you get help soon.

Love and Hugs,
Tara