I know some people are offended by my questions; but if you aren't, here are some questions:

*Why do you name-call? Generally, people name-call when they haven't developed "age-appropriate" social skills.

*Many people call names as a means of bullying. Why bully...to sense feeling more powerful and controlling over others i.e. calling women the most demeaning names to make yourself FEEL more powerful (the better, bigger or stronger gender). Calling names is more characteristic of children's behaviors when they feel frustrated.

*Did you father call your mother names? Did your father feel women were less valued than men? Did you learn this behavior?

*Is your alcohol use causing you problems? Do you name-call after you've been drinking alcohol? Do you use alcohol as an excuse for your behavior?

Do you fear hurt by maintaining a relationship, and name-call or behave in ways which you know will end the relationship?

What could you do to stop this habit? In a next relationship, could you contract to reward the person for your name-calling i.e. pay them a sizeable amount of money each time you name-call, or contract to do some activity to their liking for a certain time, or give up something you like for a time? Could you invent some name-calling words to yell when you're angry? Could you reward yourself each day, week or month that you don't name-call?

...just some ideas