(((tinyflyer)))

what you wrote about your boyfriend concerns me. sometimes, other ppl can see that someone you love isn't treating you fairly before you can see it yourself. that's what it sounds like your mum's bf is telling you.

i think it would be a good idea for you to get some therapy, too! he/she might be able to give you some perspective, and especially when we've had poor role models (like your dad) it is difficult for us to figure out what is right and wrong in a relationship. so your therapist might be able to help you with drawing boundaries, figuring out when you want to have sex, fighting fairly with this boyfriend and knowing when not to feel bad because *he* has issues and not you.