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Originally Posted by sunrise
This is my last attempt to try to make this relationship work. It's like a final stand, a last ditch effort.
It's so hard too when the other person is your child. You can't just walk away.
I really wish I could talk about this with my own therapist. 
There are no boundaries the other way. Why not? The child can just ride roughshod over the parent? I don't get that. Shouldn't there be some element of reciprocity in the relationship? Why don't they have to respect your boundaries?
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This sounds really frustrating
Obviously, I don't know any of the facts, but I do think that generally, you are right that it's a really big decision to just walk away from a relationship with your child. I know my parents really struggled with this when one of my siblings was going through a very long, very rough patch (and was quite difficult to be around).
I don't understand -- why can't you talk to your T about this? About what good parent-child boundaries are from the other direction? Maybe he could recommend some readings that address this, that would maybe give you other options than just dropping the relationship completely? Sorry I don't have any better advice, I just find that when I feel stuck, my T can often suggest something I haven't thought of yet, and that helps me see things a little less bleakly. [ETA: if you can't ask your T about these questions, maybe you can address them to the family T? Could he provide some suggested readings on the topic?]
It does sound exhausting, and I hope there is a solution out there where your boundaries can be respected too.
