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Old Jan 21, 2009, 04:02 AM
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You sounded so hopeful after meeting with the family therapist one on one the other day, what happened?
I guess I had this expectation that now that the family T had a better picture of my and my daughter's relationship (because he and I met one on one), that the next family session would go much better and that he would work miracles. Yeah, unrealistic, but somewhere inside, I realize now I was thinking things would be better. But they weren't. My daughter is almost 15, BTW.

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Family therapy sounds really hard, like it has rules of its own.
Yes, it does seem to, and like individual therapy, no one ever tells you the rules! One of the biggest changes from individual is that in individual, I go in to therapy, choose the direction or topic and off we go. T follows my lead. In family therapy, one person can't do that, because there is the other person to consider. The topic or direction I want may not be the one my daughter wants. So I let the T choose the direction and topic. It is a lot more work for him, but I can't think of any other way. I'm OK with it as long as he is.

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You can't talk to your T about this because he is your D coach?
Bingo. I worry if he knew the difficulties we were having, it might reflect negatively on the custody decision. So I can't share anything of consequence regarding my daughter with my T.
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