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Originally Posted by sunrise
Oh. I didn't know that was how it worked in therapy and I doubt my daughter does either. The family T has never told us that. One of those rules they expect you to somehow know, I guess. In this session, I believe my daughter and I talked to each other the most we ever have in session. We said a few sentences directly to each other. Usually it is just the family T speaking to both of us, or to one or the other of us. And then I or my daughter answer him back. I didn't know we were supposed to talk to each other. I guess we are not doing well at therapy at all, are we?
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you're doing the best you know how! and that is all anyone can ask for
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yes, therapy does seem to have a lot of little rules we're somehow meant to know. it would be a lot easier if they had em stuck up on the wall and numbered 1 to 10
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how did it feel talking to your daughter in session? was it awkward at all or kind of natural?
where i picked up the communication thing - i started a new job last year, and we often have to use interpreters (deal with a lot of people from non english speaking backgrounds). and the thing we got drummed into us, is always always always talk directly to the client, make eye contact with the client - kind of ignore that the interpreter is there at all. it doesn't matter that the client doesn't understand one word of what you are saying - because what you are talking about involves them, you have to direct what you are saying towards them. then the interpreter (which is kind of like your T) will do his thing, and the client can respond.
so it's almost like - your T is just their to help clarify things when you are both floundering, or when the communication can be improved somewhat, or when maybe both of you are missing something?
i dont know if that helps at all. i think it is natural to answer directly to the T if he is the one who is asking you the question.