The way I see it is that our experiences have made us a better person. Without going through some kind experience, one way or the other (illness, depression, a way you were brought up that was different, phsycially hadicapped, etc.) would we really be as sensitive as we are? While I definetly think things were cursed and are like walking through glass what keeps me going is thinking that someday I will meet somebody and they won't be "normal" but they won't be abusive either because in the one hand you want someobdy who has had some experiences shape their life and have different points of views and personality that isn't generic. You know what I mean? But they don't have to be so different to the point were you put up with things. I don't know if this is helping or if I'm rambling but I hope this helps.
Lee ann