((Sunny))
This sounds so so challenging and painful.
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Today in therapy he said to my daughter, "you're talking about your mother, she's sitting right next to you." I'm not sure why he said that.
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Well, my guess is that he would want her to develop an awareness of you and your feelings. It's easier to dismiss responsibility for our actions if we don't consider other's feelings as well. At the same time, he is doing it in a way that will allow her to arrive at this decision on her own. Then she won't feel like someone is telling her what to do.
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This is my last attempt to try to make this relationship work. It's like a final stand, a last ditch effort.
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Awww, I am sorry it feels so difficult right now. When we feel so depleted it's hard to imagine that we have to try again with our children. At times like these I try to look within and see what it is that I need to do to take care of myself.
I have three children but there is one who has always managed to press my buttons. He is the child who forced me to consult with professionals many years ago because it was soooooo difficult. He is the child who pushed me to my limits time and time again. But he is now the child who is on in his twenties, on his own in NYC, and who calls me (still yelling) and then thanks me for grounding him. Go figure. I think these kids are the ones who reflect more of what is inside of us than we know.
Sunny, just keep going, one foot in front of the other. Don't give up. Take care of your needs. We can't take care of our children until we take care of ourselves.
