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Originally Posted by sunrise
I try to let her constant insults and negativity and hostility roll off my back and ignore them and not let them get to me. But it's so hard... What does taking care of my needs mean? Maybe it means getting her out of the house for good so I don't have to withstand her constant barrage of negativity.
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Think of yourself as a T in this situation, or think about what this would mean in your own therapy, if something like this happened. What is the meaning of all the negativity? I'd guess it was anxiety, fear, terror on the part of your daughter. Why else would she be expending so much energy if not to protect herself against the fear by attacking you instead? Fear is a powerful force.
Remember, what she is expressing is
her fear. Not yours.