That is so unfair and unethical!! What made you decide not to press charges? To me that would be--not really getting even, but justice. I am so sorry you had to go through that. I suppose the good thing is now you can be absolutely you...no need to hide anything or feel ashamed. Also know this...we all do stuff we aren't exactly proud of....the key to maturity is to learn from the mistakes, learn from the wrong and bad that we do so we don't do them again. Regarding the stuff about your dad---that's his embarassment, try not to take it on yourself. You did nothing wrong, nothing to be ashamed of. Remember, also, that you are one year out of graduation. Check back at your 10 year reunion, or 20 year reunion and see just how many people bring it up. Hopefully by then they will all have realized that we all have pasts. It is called a past for a reason--it's done, it's over and it is where it belongs. You sound like a young man who has strength and determination to overcome quite a lot...I believe you will be able to overcome this hurtful, vengful, nasty act of this individual. You are important! Don't let them make you feel less than that!