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I have a problem. I am lesbian with a partner who does not have bipolar disoder. I have more problems with depression than anything at this point in my life. Karen is a new partner of about one year. One week ago her friend of 14 yrs. came to town with her girlfriend. Karen and I took them to dinner which went well. I admit that I tried to be funny and likable. I had a good time. Karen's friend call her C, was in town for classes all week long. C's girlfriend, N and I had some things in common and I thought that asking her out for breakfast while C was in classes would be fun. Well, I was sick with a cold and called her to tell her why I had not called to go out to breakfast. N suggested that we go at 5AM so C could go also. I said wow I don't get up that early because I take meds. N asked what meds do I take and I told her, to which she asked if I was bipolar. I responsed with yes, I've been given that diagnosis before. N then got on the ban wagon trying to tell me what to do, like apply for SSI and how long it takes, etc. I just listened. I am not working but have a masters in social work with expertise in mental health. Anyway these two gals presented themselves as forthright and blunt, so I thought I could be. We set a breakfast time for 2 day later and at 9AM. The night before breakfast, C calls on my cell phone and says that N can't go because she needs her help studying which I knew was BS. Then C talked to Karen. I heard Karen's voice tone change and say no she can't hear me and yes I will be careful. Basically, end of conversation with the breakfast cancelled. I felt paranoid, and immediately asked Karen if they were talking about me, which she replied no to. I pushed and Karen swear to god, then I said look you said this and this. Then Karen got mad and told me the truth, that her friend C had said she was not comfortable with me being with Karen. I was like what the heck. To shorten the story, Karen went to breakfast with both of them before they lefted town to find out what happened. N told Karen that I had told her I was suicidal and took notes during our phone conversation. In other words that I was bipolar and not good for Karen. When Karen came home and tried to tell me I got really upset and left. I came home to my elderly mother's with my dog. Only taking my meds with me. Karen got really mad and told me to take all my stuff and not come back. I just needed to get away before I exploded. I felt betrayed by Karen as she stayed friends with C and N. All she told me was that she couldn't prove what I said and didn't say. Ever since then, several days now, Karen and I have not been able to get past this. We had talked about me going and meeting them to find out what happend that they no longer approved or liked me. Karen said she told them that she could make up her own mind and thanks for being concerned. I feel discriminated against. Part of me could have kicked some butt, lol.
Karen is a salesperson with a locrative career and takes care of me like no one ever has. She is kind to my mother. My daughter and grandchildren like her. Things have gone well except for when I met her large family and one of her sister's ticked me off and I stood up for myself. Karen says I hurt her sister and put her in the middle. Believe me her sister pushed me and I responded verbally. Anyway she finally told her mom that I was bipolar and now her mom tells her to be careful. I'm in my fifties. I can't get a job, I have social problems on the job, and I am trying to get myself to apply for SSI and basically give up on employment. But I am not suicidal, never said so, and I sure would not tell a stranger!!! I have a life long friend that totally supports me and I would check myself into a hospital.
I really need some help with this. Please comment, ask questions.
Dash
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Update: Living without any medications after 16 years do to mindfulness meditation and mindful psychotherapy. (Previously given many wrong diagnosis.) Currently in mindful psychotherapy. Pursuing neuro feedback to increase functioning of right side of the brain, as trauma causes deficits in the brain. Will update when I know the results!!!
Keep on researching to increase healing and happiness. Buddhism is my path. 
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