Thanks 4ever and Kimmy. I don't feel as stupid about it knowing that other people get caught in this trap too. Beating myself up is all too familiar. 4ever, I hope you can get out of the loop too.

Kimmy, thanks for the suggestions. I will work on it, and write things down. Do you feel bad about things that you can't control too? That's a big one for me, especially when someone gets hurt, or my performance suffers, even if it is for reasons beyond my control.