((((((((((( em )))))))))))

I expereinced something similar and I was angry but mostly just hurt. I felt used in some way. I felt manipulated ("Don't worry, I know what's best and this hurtful thing is what's best. Trust me, this is the right thing for you. You may not understand it now but this is the way it will be. Sometimes we don't get answers..." blah blah blah. I felt like I was of interest to the person in a real and sincere way, but then after this it felt like it must have been primarily for their own agenda. I felt like a toy, taken out and enjoyed, then put back.

Shame on those who get in over their heads or go down a road they wish they hadn't and then don't know how to gently take another direction, but instead make an abrupt and jolting shift and hurt us very badly. "Oops, my bad!" doesn't even begin to cut it.

Sorry I went on so. I really feel for you and I hope good things can come from this and that you feel calm and secure soon.