I'd suggest getting a different T. If you are not clicking w/ her, then she's not the right one for you. It took me years to find a T that fit who I am (who we are). Never settle for anything less than what you deserve. You're paying good money, your time... You need to get as much outta of it as you can not her saying those nasty things. That was unprofessional at best. Some T's do do the tough love, I don't go for it. I need a T who will tell me like it is BUT w/ compassion not banging me over the head. I hope things work out better. Don't keep anybody inside for fear from what your T said. They need to be out so they can be themselves. They are not caged animals.
Love,
RhysMadison