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Originally Posted by Hopeful09
We are just beggining our journey into discovering Adult ADHD. My quest is to gain knowledge and understanding to help my boyfriend through it all. He is currently going through assesment and hopefully soon diagnosis so things can begin to feel progressive. As I read the information available he does exibit alot of the characterists described. He is not able to express himself and gets frustrated easily which in turn begins to wear on my patience. Simcha, you seem to have an objective perspective. How can I be helpful to him and show him a level of understanding; when I can't really understand what's happening to him and why he does certain things. Does ADHD commonly affect communication in close relationships?
I appreciate your insight,
Hopeful09
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0-10 in no time flat huh? I used to break things... hurt people; even myself on accident. I haven't always been this great bastion of "wisdom"... LMAO j/k
Don't make me go into how I was arrested once...
BUT... now I am treated and in therapy.
Yes, ADHD untreated can wear on relationships, but we must remember that it takes two people to make a relationship work. However, one person can't do all the work either, so your boyfriend is going to have to meet you at least half-way. Hopefully with assessment and treatment he can do that.
The best things the diagnosed person and those who support a ADHD loved one are:
1) Get properly diagnosed
2) Treat co-morbid disorders (if any)
3) Get properly treated for ADHD with a combination of medication and talk therapy
4) Learn all that you can about ADHD
5) Be good to yourself.
I would also suggest that you make sure your taking care of YOURSELF too. Because you know, your worth it too.
Sorry I've been slow in responding.