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Originally Posted by earthmama
Teacher T and T decided that Teacher T and I have been on a "slippery slope" where she is actually providing some therapy to me.
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Big f*cking deal. Sorry, but that pisses me off, that they would overreact to Teacher T's giving you a little support of her own. Deal with it, therapists! Don't make Earthmama suffer because of your discomfort or role confusion. Grrrrrrrrrr.
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In the past month or so, she has basically stopped communicating with me outside of class
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With no explanation? Well, that's adult. That's communicative. NOT!
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it turns out that she decided without telling me that she had the "roles" confused and was changing her approach
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So she changed without talking to you about it? What is her problem? That just seems so basic and courteous. Again, I'm sorry, but your Teacher T seems really inconsiderate. Does she actually have training as a therapist?
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"See, you were the wise one in this whole thing".
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At least your T gets it, even if it's not helping you feel safe.
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Teacher T changed her "role" without telling me.
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I guess what seems really bad to me about this is that not only did she change her role and not tell you, but she chose to tell your T about it! You should have been the first one to know.
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I don't know how to move forward.
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If it were me, I would immediately revoke consent for Teacher T and your regular T to talk to each other about you. Teacher T has shown that she can't be trusted with this privilege. If she needs to talk about you, shes needs to learn to be direct and speak with the client about her concerns. Sheeeesh! (Is she really a therapist?) Do you think this means you will be ending your work with Teacher T? It is such a huge rupture, how can it be mended? She won't talk to you outside of your classes because she's so worried she might provide therapy, so it seems impossible to fix if there is no communication permitted. I think she owes you an apology bigtime, but it wouldn't surprise me if she didn't give one.
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What do I DO with this anger??????????????
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I don't know. It's a problem of mine too. I am really just learning to know when I am angry and to express it a little occasionally. I really don't know what to do with the feeling of anger. Basically, when I feel it, I just want to get rid of it, and I don't know how. I hope you can find something to do with your anger. My T says anger can power one's fierceness, and it is good to be fierce. To stand up for what you believe in. And hold your boundaries firm. I hope your anger helps you with this and I hope your T has some suggestions tomorrow on how to proceed. If I were your T, I would be angry at Teacher T. She has f*cked things up with one of his dearest clients and now he is left to deal with this and try to make things right.
Sorry about going on and on.... I just feel so bad you were subjected to this, EM. It makes me angry she treated you this way.
