Earthmama,

I also would be very hurt and angry. It is very hard on the client when a t has allowed a certain amount of intimacy and communication and then decides to pull back (for whatever reason). It is especially hurtful when the reason wasn't any wrongdoing on your part. Teacher T probably likes you very much and truly wanted to help. . .to the point where she overstepped her role with you (or your regular t felt that teacher t overstepped her role with you).

T's are supposed to guard against boundary crossings, but it does happen sometimes. Then, by the time they realize it, they try to re-establish the boundaries, which feels very much like an abandonment to the client. It reopens old abandonment wounds. I'm so sorry that this is happening to you. Teacher t needs to take responsibility for this happening, apologize, and find a way to heal this rupture with you. You have every right to be hurt and angry, and I think that unless you talk about it with her (and probably also with regular t), it could affect your trust and the therapeutic relationship.

How do you personally feel about this? Do you agree that teacher t was providing therapy? Did it feel like a boundary crossing or cause any obstacles to your work with regular t? Did either t explain to you what exactly teacher t did that was a boundary crossing? Was it allowing email contact? Something else? You deserve to know.