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Originally Posted by sunrise
Knowing it is fear or anger does not help me or the others around her live with the effects on her behavior.
At times I feel a certain kinship with her, perhaps because I do see her sometimes in such pain, and my heart breaks for her. I had a really unhappy childhood myself and seeing her this way brings back memories.
but yet I feel in many ways I am (or was) more like her. She is like a more extreme version of me at her age--deeply unhappy and alienated from her family.
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Sorry that I read into something you said (when I said that you said that you were never close to her).
Knowing that she is angry and afraid doesn't make you feel more sympathy for her?
Actually, seeing yourself in your kids can go either way. I guess it depends if you like or dislike what you see? If what you see feels painful it might cause you to put distance between yourself and your daughter just so that you can survive?