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imapatient · Jan 23, 2009, 05:37 AM

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Originally Posted by deliquesce

thank you pegasus, and imapatient, and bellax

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i wanted to tell my pdoc about this, but now if you say it is wrong, then maybe i shouldn't tell because i dont want pdoc thinking my dad is a bad person. he is good and he tries his best. it's ok if pdoc thinks i'm dirty but i don't want him to think bad things about my dad

. my dad was only doing what i asked. if i didnt ask, it would never have happened.

Still, you didn't make your dad do anything.

It doesn’t mean your dad was bad. He did a bad thing, or unwise, or dysfunctional, or inappropriate, etc. Maybe he never did it again. Maybe he was a great or good dad in many ways.

I suffered sexual abuse form my mother. I know she was a well-intentioned person who only wanted the best for me, but she didn't know how to act consist with those feelings about being the best parent possible. She was very mentally ill, alcoholic, and had had a horrible childhood. I'm not dirty, she wasn't dirty, she wasn’t bad, she was very sick and not in control of her behavior at times. But I've still had to deal with the results of her behavior as it contributed to making me who I am.

You had an innocent request. I don't think it's uncommon for kids to be curious about that. But despite no bad intentions on your part or your father's part, you still have to deal with what happened. I can't imagine any mental health pro thinking poorly of you for what happened. You did nothing wrong.